When The Gossip Girls and Social Butterfly PR sent me an email about their #PositivelySexy blog hop, I didn't hesitate to sign up. I like the concept, a whole bunch of authors working together to support each other--it's what I do ever day without being asked--and an opportunity to toss out there a shout out to an author who is special to me. As far as I am concerned, Indie Land could use a whole bunch more positivity.
Three major misconceptions exist among too many authors. They make me sad and they are the furthest thing from the truth.
First, that authors are in competition with each other. No. It's not an I win/you lose sort of environment. If that were true 50 shades & Twilight wouldn't have created an incredible market for Indies. Every offering is unique. Every book an individual experience. And when someone buys 50 Shades in my world I'm hoping they've been turned on to reading a new genre and may some day read my books. That's win/win, darlings.
Second, that we exist in virtual space therefore behaving like we're still wearing pink panties in Junior high school, running our mouths and trying to hurt any author who we think has "done something" to us or one just don't like is simply ridiculous. After being in the Indie World for 15 months I can honestly say most mulligan perpetrated by another author against me were simply mulligans--giant oops moments and little bits of newbie duh. I did that. Fortunately, the authors who propped me up along the way were wonderful people. You see when I started I didn't even have an active twitter, I didn't know the social rules. Two wonderful authors retweeted me religiously for nearly nine months before I figured out--Rat Farts, I've missed the correct social response on twitter. I'm supposed to tweet back!-- But they were terrific, and weren't there thinking I'm a total bitch or whatever, they kept retweeting until I figure it out so Antonio Lozada & Dennis Bowen are on my FOREVER retweet list. Every morning religiously I hit their pins or retweet something, but heck, they must be male specimens of absolute patience because it took this beach girl from Cali 9 months to figure out the social graces of tweeting and darn if they both still follow me.
Third, that the little things don't matter so why do them. Hello, wrong again. Life is mostly made up of little moments. If you ignore those you're ignoring 90% of living. I always like or share a facebook post when I can, when I see a hardworking author out their getting their Indie Freak on. It takes a second. It takes nothing away from me, and it cost me nothing to try to help them so why not do it. Remember that phrase Random Acts of Kindness? It's true. It's true. I've done a thousand little things in the past fifteen months for authors I don't know and the random acts of kindness has brought me back acts of kindness too numerous to count.
I guess what I'm saying is I wished more author thought "we were all on the same team" and "that love is what makes the world go wrong." But until that day, I'm going be me...
Random Acts of Kindness....
Sometimes not getting what I'm supposed to do in social media but no malicious act....
And forever wishing all of you, darlings, Peace.
P.S. Check back in tomorrow. I am posting for a special author very dear to my heart.
Three major misconceptions exist among too many authors. They make me sad and they are the furthest thing from the truth.
First, that authors are in competition with each other. No. It's not an I win/you lose sort of environment. If that were true 50 shades & Twilight wouldn't have created an incredible market for Indies. Every offering is unique. Every book an individual experience. And when someone buys 50 Shades in my world I'm hoping they've been turned on to reading a new genre and may some day read my books. That's win/win, darlings.
Second, that we exist in virtual space therefore behaving like we're still wearing pink panties in Junior high school, running our mouths and trying to hurt any author who we think has "done something" to us or one just don't like is simply ridiculous. After being in the Indie World for 15 months I can honestly say most mulligan perpetrated by another author against me were simply mulligans--giant oops moments and little bits of newbie duh. I did that. Fortunately, the authors who propped me up along the way were wonderful people. You see when I started I didn't even have an active twitter, I didn't know the social rules. Two wonderful authors retweeted me religiously for nearly nine months before I figured out--Rat Farts, I've missed the correct social response on twitter. I'm supposed to tweet back!-- But they were terrific, and weren't there thinking I'm a total bitch or whatever, they kept retweeting until I figure it out so Antonio Lozada & Dennis Bowen are on my FOREVER retweet list. Every morning religiously I hit their pins or retweet something, but heck, they must be male specimens of absolute patience because it took this beach girl from Cali 9 months to figure out the social graces of tweeting and darn if they both still follow me.
Third, that the little things don't matter so why do them. Hello, wrong again. Life is mostly made up of little moments. If you ignore those you're ignoring 90% of living. I always like or share a facebook post when I can, when I see a hardworking author out their getting their Indie Freak on. It takes a second. It takes nothing away from me, and it cost me nothing to try to help them so why not do it. Remember that phrase Random Acts of Kindness? It's true. It's true. I've done a thousand little things in the past fifteen months for authors I don't know and the random acts of kindness has brought me back acts of kindness too numerous to count.
I guess what I'm saying is I wished more author thought "we were all on the same team" and "that love is what makes the world go wrong." But until that day, I'm going be me...
Random Acts of Kindness....
Sometimes not getting what I'm supposed to do in social media but no malicious act....
And forever wishing all of you, darlings, Peace.
P.S. Check back in tomorrow. I am posting for a special author very dear to my heart.
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